The Last Love Saga
Learning to let go: The Final Love Saga:
Well, as I write this in tears, it’s important for me to let you guys know that heartbreak sucks but the tears and the snot running down your face is necessary for the healing process. So what the world wants to know, what happened?! I asked a boy for more than he had to give and I wasn’t willing to wait until he was willing to give it to me. As humans, we deserve to be loved how we want to be loved. If you like flowers, then you should get them. If you like dates on the beach and BAEcations then you should get them. If you ask your partner for these things and he/she can’t give them to you, then love yourself enough to know when to let go. I was in a relationship with a lot of love, but like plants, relationships need a number of things to survive. Love was one thing, but other parts were missing. Somewhere down the line, I was the only one putting any effort into the growth of our relationship, and that’s not fair.
“Never beg someone to love you correctly. They either want to or they don’t”.
This is the statement that I recite to myself. I asked for what I needed and he was honest when he said he could not give it to me. That’s when we made the choice to part ways. I don’t know what the future holds for us, but I do know that I need time to heal and work on myself. I want to bring new light and energy into my life. As of now, that door has closed. I am saddened that it has but I wish everyone involved nothing but love and light.
With that being said. Things that helped me through this break include but are not limited to:
My friends! My friends have been the best part of this whole thing. I have never felt so much support and love flow into me as I did when I was in @Jwills bed crying and asking for explanations as to how this could happen; or when I was cleaning my house and my girlfriends came over and helped even if I was in shitty mood.
Vacations: I think about a week after my break up me and my girls went to Vegas. Couldn’t have come at a better time.
Exercise: This for sure helped. It got me out of the house. It got me around people and it made me feel and look sexy. Which after a break up was much needed.
New bras and underwear: Buying sexy undies that he’s never seen me in, made me feel like a boss!
Getting new sheets and comforters: Sheets that don’t smell like him. Comforters that he’s never slept in definitely made the transition easier.
And last but not least Food and break up/ RomComs: I know!! It’s cliché but this shit actually works! I laughed, I cried, I related, I healed.
So, this is my post on my transition into the single life. If anyone has any other ideas on how to get over a break up: Leave a comment!